Response to When I Told God to %#*! Off

*Warning: This post contains potentially offensive material & language*

I have debated long and hard about publishing this post, but I think that I need to. Please, look beyond the language and your initial emotional response and read what I am trying to communicate.

I was on facebook today and I saw a link to an article entitled, “When I Told God to %#! Off” (Just click on the name if you want to check the article out). Being a curious college student, who also happens to love to learn about people’s view on God and Christianity, I read the article.

Before I continue with the rest of this blog post, I want to say a few things:

  1. I love the Lord and my heart and my life is devoted to him. But I would be lying if I haven’t told the Lord to leave my life (in more explicative ways) in the depths of grief and isolation. However, instead of the Lord abandoning me, he showed me the unfathomable depths of his love and devotion. Assuming the Lord would just walk out from my life is as foolish as assuming that a good father would abandon his toddler when he or she annoys him.
  2. I value purity and I believe that the Lord calls us to live a life of purity. However, I think that Biblical purity is very different then the purity that is discussed in Christian circles. But more about that in a bit.

The linked article is addressing the Purity culture and fundamentalism as a movement removed from God and the Bible. No one can dispute the fact that he sounds like a sexually repressed and unexpressed sixteen year old boy. And quite honestly, my heart breaks for him – then and now. Not because he told God to %#*! off, but because he lived the first 16 years of his life immersed in lies. This purity culture/fundamentalism that he is discussing and abandoning is not rooted in truth or in the Bible.

Guided by my elders and the books I read, I judged as fake and hypocritical those “Christians” around me who dated, who made out, who sold the purity of their beautiful faith for youthful passion. They were hypocrites. They were dirty. They had taken their bodies, sanctified as temples, and turned them into filthy whorehouses — every single one of them. 

He was told that “life is black and white. Life is either/or” and those who sin sexually are eternally damned to hell. Oh, R.L. Stollar, how could you live 16 years on this earth, apparently in a well-meaning, Christian home and not hear about the freedom and truth of the gospel? We are born sinners, a sexual encounter is not going to damn us to hell – we are already there. It is through the blood of Jesus Christ, through is perfect sacrifice, that we are free from hell. Romans 8:31-39 says that nothing can separate us from the love of God, but love and consequence are very different. While God does indeed offer unending grace and mercy, we still will suffer the consequences (however that may look) for participating in actions that go directly against God’s law

Side Note.  Romans 6:1-2 says, “What shall we say [to all this]? Are we to remain in sin in order that God’s grace (favor and mercy) may multiply and overflow? Certainly not! How can we who died to sin live in it any longer?” Just because we got the grace of God, does not mean that we have a “get out of jail free” card. End Side Note. 

So, what does the bible say about sex & purity?

The Bible talks a lot about sex, relationships, and gender roles (whole different blog post). Unfortunately, the Bible does not have a guideline to dating, because “dating”, as it looks today, is a relatively new (as in the past 100 years) phenomena. And, when you look up verses about purity and sexuality, there is a lot of conversation about “the flesh” versus “the Spirit.”

(To clarify, “the flesh” means life without the Holy Spirit within us, the raw, sin-nature, self-promoting human nature. When we live in “The Spirit”, we are not becoming sterilized, prudes, but are able to love deeply and widely without running out of love. Love is not just an emotional investment in another person, or trying to find security/survival in a relationship. No, love is dying to your own self and serving the other person. Love is not longer about me, but about the person that I love. And this love can be passionate, deep, and beyond human understanding – in both an “eros” and an “amigos” sort of way)

So, you want some physical proof?

Galatians 5:13
For you were called to freedom, brothers. Only do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love & serve one another.
In other words, we have freedom because of our relationship with Christ. Let’s not waste our time living out our sinful desires, but let’s build community with those around us – serving and loving them. Sounds much better, doesn’t it?

1 Corinthians 6:18
Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.
“Flee” – that’s a pretty strong word, right? Run away, sprint, run like the bulls in Spain are chasing you. Sexual immorality is something to be on the watch for and to actively avoid. One reason why? It’s not harming another person, it’s harming yourself.

Side Note. Sexual Immorality is not sex. Well, it is. But I believe that God created sex to be good – in the confines of marriage. The bible has a lot to say about sexual immorality, because God values marriage so much. But, this is far above my pay grade. Talk to someone older, wiser, and married about this. End Side Note. 

1 Corinthians 6:14
“Food is meant for the stomach and the stomach for food”—and God will destroy both one and the other. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.”
The body is meant for sexual purity – not sexual immorality. Explore the bible and see what that means for you.

This go-round, I am going to agree with this article (please read it – I really like it!) from Relevant Magazine.

“The fact that we have to tell kids is that we are all damaged goods, whether we have sex before marriage or not. We are all broken, all sinful.
[Sexual purity] is about learning and living in the forgiveness of Jesus. It is about how the Gospel transforms our lives, not just until marriage, but forever. It is about how God desires to use our life’s purity as a platform for the Gospel around the world. It is about shining the spotlight on Jesus, our King and Savior, and not on a sexual decision.”

Our lives, hearts, and bodies, are far greater and of more value then we could ever imagine. As Jesus-lovers, we are called to live our lives often in direct opposition to what feels “natural” – not because being a Christian removes our desire for intimacy, but because God desires us to live lives that reflect him and his perfection.

That being said, sex is a much more complicated topic then one blog post, or one conference, or one skim through the bible. I definitely am far from having all of it figured out. And ultimately, people are going to have a large variety of interpretations and personal opinions on the topic. Just be willing to think about the Why? question.

Author: Hallie Grace

A blonde girl in a large world who happens to be adventuring through life with Jesus at her side, a wonderful man holding her hand, and a passion in her heart for others.

3 thoughts on “Response to When I Told God to %#*! Off”

  1. Terrific post! I especially liked this expression: “When we live in “The Spirit”, we are not becoming sterilized, prudes, but are able to love deeply and widely without running out of love.” The title caught my eye and brought me here to read. I have been thinking of blogging about my own experience ~18 years ago when I, very self-righteously, accused God, “Are you abandoning me?”

    Grace and peace, Lon

  2. So you agree with all of the basic points of the original blog? But with extra emphasis that physical purity is still super?

    1. I agree that the purity culture (or fundamentalism) was wrong by saying that if you had sex outside of marriage you are condemned to hell.
      But I’m maintaining that if you believe the bible is true and take it for what it says, we are all sinners separated from God – regardless if we are sexually active outside of marriage or not. If you are a believer, commit sexual sin, and confess & repent, then God gives you grace. But, The bible maintains that we should take sex seriously and live “in the spirit, not the flesh”

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